Unfortunately, the biggest mistake many moms make is not making time for themselves & prioritizing their own wants & needs!
Motherhood chronicles, make yourself a priority!
I wrote the below on Instagram during Mother’s Day but given how frequently I see/hear mothers tending to everyone else’s needs but their own, I figured this is as good a time as any to reiterate why it is crucial for us moms to make time for ourselves too…
You cannot pour from an empty cup!
One gave me me! One gave me her son! One blessed me with the most precious gift of all, becoming his mum! I learn the lessons of being a ‘good’ mother from all 3 of them daily.
I’ve learned what it means to love unconditionally (even when your kid drives you over the edge. I’d know, cuz I’ve put my mom through hell & back (during the most inglorious years of my life), and yet she never gave up on me (sure, she must have had her doubts, but that never stopped her from loving/caring for me (she probably loved me even more during those years, I now understand why)).
I’ve learned the true meaning of patience (feeding your little one for over an hour without giving up, when you have ‘zero’ patience in life, how else do you explain it?). I’ve learned that you always bet on your kid, no matter how many times they screw up (she put everything at stake to give me the ability to go after my dreams).
The list goes on and on and on.
I’d have never learned the true meaning of a mother and her insane love if I never became one myself.
But you know what else I’ve learned?
To take time for ‘myself’ away from my kid, something that my mom & MIL never did!
To them, their kids are their entire universe, & everything they ever did in life was/is all for us. Today, we are all living our own lives, far away from them (I’ll forever be guilt-ridden).
So yes, I am learning from the ‘mistake’ they made & I’ve been conscious of having my own identity, outside of being ‘a mom’. I know, probably not a msg you hear on Mother’s Day, what can I say, I don’t follow the crowd.
Lastly, “It’s not what you do for your children, but what you’ve taught them to do themselves that will make them successful human beings.”
My mom & my MIL have done this so beautifully, I aspire to learn this from them & put it into practice. I’ve learned that being a mother is not just about raising an outstanding student but about raising a kind, compassionate and loving human who treats everyone equally (if my son turns out to be half the man my hubby is then I’d consider myself to have done a great job).
On that note, my heart truly goes out to everyone who misses their moms and is hurting, sending y’all healing vibes & virtual hugs.
“Self-care is giving the world the best of you, not what’s left of you.”