Tips & Reality on Building & Boosting Your Self-Confidence
In the last few months, the more 1:1 interactions I’ve with people, the more I’ve been asked where I get my confidence from?
What if I were to ask YOU, where does your confidence or the lack of it come from?
Seriously, think about it & makes notes.
I had never really given it much thought until recently. I do walk into a room as if I own the room (well at least 80% of the time, big believer in the 80-20 rule).
That’s not to say that I don’t have any insecurities, heck I do, just like every single human. But I don’t dwell on it, I am aware, I acknowledge, & most importantly, I’m SECURE ABOUT MY INSECURITIES!
I do NOT suffer from the most common symptoms —
People-pleasing, fear of judgment, seeking others’ approval, etc, etc.
‘oh, what will people say/think’?
Well, guess what?
None of those people who talk/comment/gossip come & work hard for you (live our lives).
I still distinctly remember ‘preaching’ this to my parents over & over, probably since I was 6-7 years old.
Yep, true story, no clue where I got that perspective and attitude from at that young age!? 😮
None of this is ARROGANCE, it is knowing myself, my values, & focusing on my family rather than interfering in others’ business.
I know that I do not know everything (duh!).
If it’s important to me then I’ll make an attempt to learn, if it’s not then why does it even matter?
I am well aware that I probably make way more mistakes than I can count, but that doesn’t hamper my spirits cuz that’s how I learn/grow/evolve (not worried if I look stupid, I’ve at least tried).
Was I always this way? Yes & No!
While certain aspects of it are 2nd nature to me there are other areas that I’ve consistently worked on & cultivated over the years (still do).
Does it mean that I am always absolutely confident? I wish, but when I catch myself losing confidence I remind myself of all of the above (& more) & bring my A-game! I’m forever a work in progress & none of this is one & done!
If all else fails, a little bold lip always helps #punintended
Ultimately, it all begins & ends with one’s core values & mindset!
So how will YOU fight the low self-esteem and low self-confidence demons?
Confidence is contagious!!!
“Confidence comes not from always being right but from not fearing to be wrong.”